It doesn’t matter how old I get what my experiences in life are it always seems to come down to one thing when it comes to major changes in my life. Do I feel appreciated at that moment ? If so I hang in and dig deep and try harder to do my best, if I don’t I will work hard to make it better but…I come to the realization that it is time to move on. It is that reason at the core of everything why my first marriage ended the way it did mainly because I didn’t feel appreciated. I started looking for \\appreciation else where. Fast forward to the present…A job that I worked at for 11 1/2 years I am leaving as of tomorrow. Mainly for the same reason …lack of feeling appreciated. Perhaps I overstate my own value , not likely but my value will be felt once I am not there. One of my co workers already stated that he is going to miss my insights and that I had knew more of what was going than he did and he works during the day and I work the overnight. I did the overnights for 5 1/2 years…my sleep is off especially on the weekends …it’s my body’s way of saying it’s time to do something else with my life something more to be more and value myself more than what others do.
So a word of advice …While it is important to feel appreciated it is just as important to put yourself in a situation or environment to where you flourish and feel what you do matters.
Sometimes we are our own worse enemy. We are harder on ourselves than others are on us especially when we feel we let ourselves down by doing things we know better we shouldn’t do. We beat ourselves up over and over making it difficult to move on and grow from the experience, so …stop beating yourselves up over the past, see who you really are and leave self judgment at the door and be the best you.
Simple question right? Think again. Not who we think we are or who we see ourselves to be but who am I at my core. So the riddle that stumps us the most is the most simple of questions …Who Am I?
This matters in every walk of your life. Personal and professional. I am living these words right now with a change of jobs soon. I was asked why I am leaving. My reason wasn’t about money …it was about worth, my value and how I saw me in the work enviorment. When I asked a question about what it took to get to the next level…silence became the answer. After a couple of attempts it became clear the answer was no. Funny thing is I was ok with the answer in fact I knew when I asked the question chances are what the answer would be, yet I was more put off that no one bothered no one felt it mattered enough for a sit down to discuss what it would take to get to the next level short term and long term. That triggered or fuel my decision to change my job. I realize I felt I was worth a conversation with the powers to be even if the answer was no. I deserved that much. Now that conversation is too late to have. Someone else will value my work , will appreciate my worth. Someone already does…Me!