It’s a subject that is touchy and personal, a subject that we don’t admit to whether we are male or female and sorry folks I hate to go there but women cheat as much as men do, if men cheat who do the cheat with ? Women! But that isn’t the main point of this entry. I was reading an article about Once a cheat always a cheat , how likely people are to stray second time around, and after reading the article, I began thinking about my own experience and about how I felt then and how I feel now. If I cheated once will I cheat again ? Knowing from experience first hand all the things that when down ….not likely. I would be more likely to sit talk and then as a last resort walk away if it came to that, not cheat. Not again! The one thing the article didn’t mention is that people can change, once a cheater not always a cheater if …Big IF here folks if we learn from what we did the last time. If we only learn how not to get caught then yes we will or in my case yes then I will cheat again, but if I learn that I need to be open and honest and keep the lines of communication open, if I learn not to let a look turn to a glance of I’d love to …or she looks hot I want to …and dismiss any and all thoughts that will lead me down that path yet again then I have truly learned my lesson.
Let’s puts this out there and be real about it…Men see the physical part of cheating , Women see the emotional attachment that you are drifting toward when a man cheats…a woman catches her man looking at another woman as they are walking down the street …the man says what? I was only looking I didn’t do anything wrong, a woman reads that as I’m here next to you and you’re looking at someone else and you’re drooling at her as if you want her …in order words men …your woman is insulted and you have already strayed all that was missing was the time place and opportunity to act on that lustful look.
There is more to cheating than just the physical act of kissing someone or having sex with them, it is the emotional attachment that comes before it even gets to that …the longing look beyond the glance, it is the lustful look that we don’t dismiss or the longing of why can’t my mate/spouse/ partner be hot like that or look like that or act like that or smell like that …it is that lustful look that pulls at us that opens the door completely to next justifying going to the next step of making our feelings known to that person…at that point all that is missing is the opportunity to act out those lustful desires. Not every cheater is caught but every cheater knows what they did.
So back to the question asked earlier If I cheated once will I cheat again?